I’m very annoyed. I just watched a video that pointed out a movie trope (cliche) called the “manic pixie dream girl”. It went on to describe different movies in which a sad, lonely straight man falls in love with a quirky, carpe-diem-type girl. According to them they’re portrayed in a way that makes it seem like these women are here for no purpose except to rejuvenate the sad male and give them purpose again.
Here’s why that irritates me:
First of all, I hardly agree with that summary. In two of the four they mentioned (500 days of summer and eternal sunshine…) the movies is basically an anti romance that in the end shows how difficult it is to be in a relationship especially when you’re both a bit fucked up.
Secondly, I LIKE those movies because I AM that girl. They describe my boyfriend’s and my relation almost perfectly and they make me feel better about who I am. Like, yeah it’s really hard and I may cry a lot but at least I have some joy to offer. It’s a very real combination of people.
Like, here’s a quote from this book about BPD that I have:
"you were attracted to her, not because of who she was, but because of her uncanny ability to be whomever you needed her to be… you fell in love with the person you were when you were with her… now…at best you may feel yourself a victim, an object of rage held hostage by self-destructive acts for which she hold you to blame"
Basically a description of eternal sunshine.
It’s just sort of BS. Like, that trope exists because people are like that and to say that those girl don’t have an identity is pretty hateful when sometimes living with mental illness is just fucking hard so stfu. I like romantic comedies where I can feel like someone I can relate to is getting a happy life.